Important Relationships

Everyday there are distractions in our lives. Mostly it is our business, or professions or liesure activities that take time away from the really important focus of our lives--relationships and people.

Most of my adult life I always kept my TV in a room away from the "Living room or Den".

My concern is that when people come over to visit, or the family needs to meet there must be a place in a home that is conducive to conversation. Consider the Television: it is ubiquitous in today's society. It is a device focused on eye contact. People used to have eye contact, and they conversed with each other. However, the television now zaps all eye contact and conversation from humans.

Have you ever been a home where you walk in the front door, and are immediately in the "living room" with the TV on. Some of the residence may break eye contact with the TV just long enough to say "Hi". Other times, they act as if you are not there, or as if you are annoying them by being there. The ones who have had their souls sucked up by the 'Electronic talking Eye" may never turn away or even acknowledge you. Believe me, you are not in the "Living room" you are in the "Dead Zone" of human communication.

Humans, as I said require human interaction and eye contact conversation. It is what keeps us alive. Much of society is like the living dead today. They have lost this basic ability and need. They are living, but their souls are empty, and instead of sharing their lives and thoughts with others, they are watching movies and TV to try to fill the void. It does not work! It is a one way, street and nothing from within can get out to the TV or movie screen. Therefore, they are become what I call a jaundice soul. instead of having a bright, clean,white soul they have become yellow and faded and dull.

I need to tell you I have been very fortunate in my life. I found a person [just one] to whom I can share eye-to-eye all of my inner most thoughts. This person is the only one other than God who I can be fully honest with. She is like no other when it comes to listening and sharing ideas and feelings. And after, all, that is what this human need is all about.

Feelings!

Mostly we guard them, we disguise them, we hide them from others and sometimes even ourselves. In reality, this is the part of us that has to be expunged almost daily. It is like eating or bodily functions. Yet so many of us have no one to share our feelings and thoughts with, and that is the most important part of being human. Without this human ineteraction we become less and less human every day.

I used to sit in drinking establishments, and meet interesting people. They were fun to talk to, and many had a lot to say. The drinks always, it seemed, made it easier for people to open up. I learned a lot from those encounters. I learned that people really need people. They really want relationships. Some, for various reasons, ceased conversations with the really meaningful people in their lives, and they wound up in bars and pubs finding others to communicate with. Probably they found that the booze lowered their defensiveness and made them more vulnerable to exploring their inner thoughts. They became less inhibited in expressing their thoughts to an anonymous human randomly sitting next them on the next bar stool. At any rate they were communicating. A basic need of humans like eating or going to the john.


Then these places started installing TVs.

At first it was a little TV at the end of the bar which was mostly there for the bored bartender. See the bartender who used to listen to all your problems no longer wanted to play the role. He/she had their own issues, and did not want to deal with yours.

Next the Big Screen monster took over. It was like walking into the "Living room" of your neighbors home. You became a bother to all who were there watching the meaningless sport event, or latest world crisis. So now, where do people go to fulfill that basic human need of communicating eye-to-eye with each other. I believe it is a dying human function. Some lucky souls have found that God is a good listener, though since we can't see Him we don't get the same human contact need we require. Also, we are confused as to the two way interaction, because prayer seems to be very much one way.

I have tried, but I can't find in the Bible when God ceased visiting us here. I recall that He walked with ADAM in the Garden, and that He personally visited Abraham . Some of the Profits had conversations with God. He spoke to Moses and gave him the Commandments. The next major contact seems to be Jesus. Then He left, and promised the Holy Spirit. So that is our modern day connection. But we live in a physical world, and we see things with our eyes. We haven't strong enough imaginations to believe that Jesus or the Holy Spirit is sitting across the table making eye contact during our conversations. Therefore, we feel lost. Our friends, and the local drinking pal are all watching TV, and we are all losing the art of conversation and interaction. What can we do?

Find a friend or better yet, go back to communicating with a lover or your wife or husband.

Turn off the TV and pray like you never have before!!!