How Did I Get Here??

Have you ever looked around at your present setting; situation, Community, and partner, and asked. "How did I get here?"

Don't be surprised many of us ask the same question almost everyday. The answer is usually we listened to others. When you were young and dating someone, say in high school, did you start to feel obligated to being with that person because all your classmates knew that the two of you were "dating". That meant you were to "be with" that person, and if you were seen alone people would ask " Where's ...??". Like you weren't you if you weren't with the person everybody thought you should be with.
People are "Channeled" through life on the same type of "Social Rail" track. You are always asked what you are going to "Be"when you grow up. So much so, that you have to say something, or you will be made to feel like an idiot if you don't have an answer. I'm not just talking about the 50's and 60's generation. It still happens today. "What are you going to do? Who are you going to be? Who are you going to marry? It just goes on and on. You are not a complete person in the eyes of others if you haven't the right answers.
Once you give an answer, you are locked on to that track, and many people feel helpless about getting off it. Sometimes when prople try to get off the track they are made to feel like they did something wrong, or worse yet, that something is wrong with them. " Hey what happen to whatshername? You two were great together. What did you do that you're not together with...?" See, automatically, you did something wrong [mostly it was that you threw people off by making a change].

People don't really like change. When things change they have trouble keeping up. So it is better for them if you stay with the same person, keep the same career, and remain on their track where they have you set in their minds. We all seem to being "Railroaded" througout life.

What happens if the train does not arrive on time, and at the station you expected it, or if it does arrive, and you get on and find it is going to a different place. That screws thngs up, and we all know it.

So, it we are ingrained with the idea that we should stay with the high sschool sweetheart; persue the career we told everyone we were going into; be in the community we fit into.

Then when we reach a point where we get just enough time to turn around and look back down the track we say to ourselves:
"How did I get here?"